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Mythical Me

Finding Freedom from Constant Comparison

by Richella Parham

Do you ever find your­self stuck in the com­par­i­son trap?

Speak­er and author Richel­la Parham knows what this feels like. I could­n’t break free from admir­ing one per­son­’s achieve­ments, some­one else’s per­son­al­i­ty, anoth­er’s skills, yet anoth­er’s rela­tion­ships. And don’t get me start­ed on how I looked at oth­er peo­ple’s appear­ances,” she writes. I was haunt­ed by the admirable attrib­ut­es of oth­er peo­ple, cer­tain that I could nev­er match their wor­thi­ness. No mat­ter how well-inten­tioned the teach­ing or pithy the advice, I found that most of it did­n’t help me change my thoughts, feel­ings, or actions.” 

While there are no easy answers, Parham has iden­ti­fied cul­tur­al and spir­i­tu­al myths about oth­ers, God, and our­selves that keep us trapped. From there the jour­ney is a spir­i­tu­al one. We can pick up prac­tices that help us walk in the free­dom of Christ with con­fi­dence in our­selves. If you’ve ever suf­fered from tor­tured moments of com­par­i­son on Face­book, in the office, or in the hall­way at church, you’ll ben­e­fit from this fresh perspective. 

2019 Intervarsity Press

Recommendations

Myth­i­cal Me is a sore­ly need­ed cor­rec­tive to our con­tem­po­rary cul­ture’s obses­sion with con­stant­ly adjust­ing our per­son­al and pub­lic image to fit hope­less­ly impos­si­ble stan­dards. The won­der­ful news is that Myth­i­cal Me not only pro­vides an accu­rate diag­no­sis of these soul-crush­ing habit pat­terns, it also guides us step by step into trans­for­ma­tive ways of liv­ing and think­ing that are emi­nent­ly prac­ti­cal and life giv­ing. I rec­om­mend it highly.
Richard Foster, Founder of Renovaré
In Myth­i­cal Me, Richel­la Parham offers prac­ti­cal, next-step wis­dom, all root­ed in rich the­o­log­i­cal insight and offered with com­pan­ion­able, encour­ag­ing can­dor. If you’re look­ing for some emp­ty jar­gon and the illu­sion of a quick, easy fix, this book is not for you. But if you’re final­ly ready to embark upon the slow, dif­fi­cult, beau­ti­ful jour­ney toward becom­ing your­self, you won’t find a bet­ter guide.
Carolyn Arends, Renovaré's Director of Education

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